Get a quote from a known reliable independent before forking over $2k in repairs. It is entirely unnecessary to pay a dealer to do work that is out of warranty. (unless you can't find the dealer coffee anywhere else and need a fix).
I kinda think that you're SOL for getting the dealer to help you. The local dealer is evidently a different breed
'99 528i ('98/12 build). 282,000km BY29428/Royalrot
Breaking My Wallet since 2009
Mods: Stoptech SS brake hose, 280piece toolkit resting on trunk floor, Beisan VANOS seals, increasing amounts of duct tape and glue
'99 540i (grandfather's)