Square peg, round hole!
You really just need to look for stations that have the correct size nozzles for diesel cars.
Truck stops will have the very large size where the adaptor would be required.
If the nozzle is too small, they really messed up.
Many stations will have the larger truck nozzle on one side of the pump and the car size (correct size) on the other side. Look around and ask.
It is amazing with as many diesels that are on the road now days that we still find the incorrect sized nozzles installed.
I haven't run into any issues in the past 2 years or so, but haven't really ventured out of my neck of the woods either.
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