Sorry to hear about your father. That link above will def help you out alot. I would stay with oem bmw wheels for best ride quality and look. Would be nice to see your car if you want our suggestions for what wheels would be the best look for your car. We could even photo shop certain styles on there for you to see. Cheers and welcome.
"Cassie"///Mpowered 93 318is 5speed (S/C'd 95 m3 swap)
2007 X5 3.0si (Wifes)
2001 330i DD