NEWS FLASH: CAR IS FINALLY RUNNING AGAIN!!!
so, after a batch of extreme dissapointment in plugging in the new dme and still not starting, i decided to have a few cans of inspiration... then started on the electrical from the very beginning again, and alas, i had a dead relay, and a dead dme! so, the car starts and runs perfectly again, thankyou all for your help and suggestions, i had my doubts weather a cam or crank sensor could just crap out like that, but you never know...
pics will follow soon, just gotta finish it off, and then time for racing!
thanks again, matt.