Post more about what you've driven and what you like and we can probably give better help.
For me I'm a black and white person. White car and black for trim, darker tint, and I try to avoid all chrome except where you want the eyes drawn, which roof rails aren't what I like my eyes going to when I see the car.
As for the Lighting package, it really depends. Xenons (or actually the adaptive lighting) became mandatory for me and pushed me into the 35 because I decided I wanted peformance over leather and gadgets for basically the same price. I didn't opt for the auto-high beams and puddle lighting because I trust myself over a camera and computer and puddle lighting is just waiting to break and be a pain to fix IMO. I also didn't opt for nav or any gadgets, just a base 35 with cold weather and paddles. All guts and little tech.
Last edited by edx1; 10-30-2012 at 02:26 PM.