Between the ignition switch and the relay, but first, try swapping in a different relay! I haven't seen that suggested yet. Relays are a common failure point. You already know the wiring from the relay to the pump is good, since it works when jumpered.
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guessing gets expensive...drivinfaster
nothing is more expensive than a cheap BMW...c4harpe13
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