Just a quick update, 2 dealers and BMW North America have held firm that multiple oil leaks are in fact reasonably common and more importantly, acceptable, at 58,000 miles. They have All diagnosed the same leaks identified in the initial post and they will not provide any goodwill assistance towards repair, partial or whole.
I have appealed as high as I can go, and I have spoken to everyone I can at both dealerships. There is no budging by anyone.
I have to say, I'm surprised and disappointed.