Thanks for the input. I haven't been active on the forum for a while. She still hates the 335i, but is driving it daily. I like it, but would have preferred a Mustang GT FR1 or a 'vette. I did go to the Cadillac dealer; they made a hell of a good offer on a leftover '12 CTS-V. But the trade-in value of the 335i is only $38k, way too far upside-down even with the great discount on the V. BMW dealer would be glad to put us in a M5, but we would take a huge hit because of 335i trade-in value. I may look into a lease termination via swap-a-lease or lease trader.
I'll be taking the 335i in for service soon to get the FEM recall worked and the A.S.S. last mode fix installed. Hopefully the FEM recall will fix the really weird problems with seat and mirror memory and bizarre DIC warnings at times.