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Old 01-22-2010, 06:50 PM
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Brother smoking pot downstairs.

My mom is gone for the night and I'm back at home for the week, and sure enough, I smell pot coming up through the heating vents. Background: my little brother is 17, a complete waste of life, and is using my mom's money to buy pot. My mom has no spine and wont do anything about it. Luckily I have a spine, and it's fvcking pissing me off.

My question for you: What is my next step?

1. Baseball bat, break the stupid fvcks knees?
2. Use my experience in BJJ and Muay Thai to set an example?
3. Call the cops?
4. Beat the living sh*t out of every little *** in the basement, using whatever I find on my way down there?
5. Take a tire iron and remove their tires, then throw the tires in the field behind my house?
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Old 01-22-2010, 06:53 PM
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My mom is gone for the night and I'm back at home for the week, and sure enough, I smell pot coming up through the heating vents. Background: my little brother is 17, a complete waste of life, and is using my mom's money to buy pot. My mom has no spine and wont do anything about it. Luckily I have a spine, and it's fvcking pissing me off.

My question for you: What is my next step?

1. Baseball bat, break the stupid fvcks knees?
2. Use my experience in BJJ and Muay Thai to set an example?
3. Call the cops?
4. Beat the living sh*t out of every little *** in the basement, using whatever I find on my way down there?
5. Take a tire iron and remove their tires, then throw the tires in the field behind my house?
#5. Then watch as they try to drive away!
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Old 01-22-2010, 07:04 PM
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I'm thinking of possibly doing #5, then 2. I'll take their tires, kick the living sh*t out of my brother, then watch as they try to get away from the pyschotic older brother
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Dude, you have it all wrong. Go get a pint of Ben and Jerry's, a bag of doritos and a case of beer. Tell them they can dig in when they're able to fill a 1 cup measuring cup with spit. And that they're not allowed to have any water.
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Old 01-22-2010, 07:23 PM
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Dude, you have it all wrong. Go get a pint of Ben and Jerry's, a bag of doritos and a case of beer. Tell them they can dig in when they're able to fill a 1 cup measuring cup with spit. And that they're not allowed to have any water.
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Are you sure it's your mom's money? Perhaps oe of the other guys brought the schwag over. Would you feel different if they were drinking? Pot use doesn't bother me at all. I can't smoke it but if I could I probably would every now and again. Getting the police to show up might screw your mom considering it's her house they are toking in.

Violence isn't an answer besides, are you in a position where you can be stuck in the pokey for a while?

I'd tell them to take it outside so it doesn't stink up the place or tell them to go somewhere else.
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Call the police. A night in jail might help wake him up.
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Call the police. A night in jail might help wake him up.
...It could also get him a criminal record and ruin his life. Marijuana has been voted legal in 2 states now, and probably will become legalized in other states as more people vote for it. Honestly, ruining your kid brother's life over a joint? Would you react the same way if he was having a beer downstairs?

Let's not overreact, millions of people have done what he's doing and turned out just fine. I'd say just have a chat with him, explain you don't want him using it and why (list health reasons, that is puts your household in a legally precarious position, etc.) and tell him you don't want him doing it anymore, least of all in your home.
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...It could also get him a criminal record and ruin his life. Marijuana has been voted legal in 2 states now, and probably will become legalized in other states as more people vote for it. Honestly, ruining your kid brother's life over a joint? Would you react the same way if he was having a beer downstairs?

Let's not overreact, millions of people have done what he's doing and turned out just fine. I'd say just have a chat with him, explain you don't want him using it and why (list health reasons, that is puts your household in a legally precarious position, etc.) and tell him you don't want him doing it anymore, least of all in your home.
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Old 12-04-2012, 08:26 PM
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...It could also get him a criminal record and ruin his life. Marijuana has been voted legal in 2 states now, and probably will become legalized in other states as more people vote for it. Honestly, ruining your kid brother's life over a joint? Would you react the same way if he was having a beer downstairs?

Let's not overreact, millions of people have done what he's doing and turned out just fine. I'd say just have a chat with him, explain you don't want him using it and why (list health reasons, that is puts your household in a legally precarious position, etc.) and tell him you don't want him doing it anymore, least of all in your home.
I respectfully disagree.

He has lost a job because of substance abuse. The guy is in trouble and needs professional help.

If he is going to change his life around, he needs to seek help and follow their direction.

In my experience with dealing with employees who have had substance abuse problems, they must hit bottom before they bounce up. It is heart wrenching to not enable your child or brother, and it is difficult to know what to do in the moment, so all three of you need some counseling to find out what to do.

If your brother won't go, you and your mother should get some counseling so you can get professional advice.

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I respectfully disagree.

He has lost a job because of substance abuse. The guy is in trouble and needs professional help.

If he is going to change his life around, he needs to seek help and follow their direction.

In my experience with dealing with employees who have had substance abuse problems, they must hit bottom before they bounce up. It is heart wrenching to not enable your child or brother, and it is difficult to know what to do in the moment, so all three of you need some counseling to find out what to do.

If your brother won't go, you and your mother should get some counseling so you can get professional advice.

Good luck.
I think there's some miscommunication here. rclark didn't look at the dates and is responding to a very old post (thus, wyb's post) where Ryan is ticked his brother was smoking pot in the house. This was before his brother ever went into the service and is now at the point where he's being discharged for drinking.

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Old 12-05-2012, 06:37 AM
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I think there's some miscommunication here. rclark didn't look at the dates and is responding to a very old post (thus, wyb's post) where Ryan is ticked his brother was smoking pot in the house. This was before his brother ever went into the service and is now at the point where he's being discharged for drinking.
Losing your job for drinking is substance abuse to my way of thinking.

I distinguish use from abuse, not between substances.


If your use of cocaine, pot, or booze interferes with your essential life, and causes you to lose your relationships, your job, your education, etc., then it is abuse, IMO, and you need professional help.
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I respectfully disagree.

He has lost a job because of substance abuse. The guy is in trouble and needs professional help.

If he is going to change his life around, he needs to seek help and follow their direction.

In my experience with dealing with employees who have had substance abuse problems, they must hit bottom before they bounce up. It is heart wrenching to not enable your child or brother, and it is difficult to know what to do in the moment, so all three of you need some counseling to find out what to do.

If your brother won't go, you and your mother should get some counseling so you can get professional advice.

Good luck.
I agree with this approach as the will to stop the behavior is within the user, and nothing you do will change that will until they reach the bottom as you say and then the enlightenment epiphany ensues that leads to recovery ....HOPEFULLY.

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My mom is gone for the night and I'm back at home for the week, and sure enough, I smell pot coming up through the heating vents. Background: my little brother is 17, a complete waste of life, and is using my mom's money to buy pot. My mom has no spine and wont do anything about it. Luckily I have a spine, and it's fvcking pissing me off.

My question for you: What is my next step?

1. Baseball bat, break the stupid fvcks knees?
2. Use my experience in BJJ and Muay Thai to set an example?
3. Call the cops?
4. Beat the living sh*t out of every little *** in the basement, using whatever I find on my way down there?
5. Take a tire iron and remove their tires, then throw the tires in the field behind my house?
Dude. Whatever you do, do NOT BJ your brother.
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No one is a complete waste of life at 17. Kids will be kids and just because he parties now doesn't mean he'll be wothless forever. But, he's a minor and your mom should take control of the situation.

Solution: steal his weed and smoke it in front of him.
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No one is a complete waste of life at 17. Kids will be kids and just because he parties now doesn't mean he'll be wothless forever.
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He'll grow out of it eventually. You might just try explaining that you don't appreciate him doing that and warn him that next time you'll do something about it.
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He'll grow out of it eventually. You might just try explaining that you don't appreciate him doing that and warn him that next time you'll do something about it.
Been there, done that. He doesn't care. He loves the thought of being the biggest pot head in school, unless something drastic happens he'll keep doing this ****.
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Been there, done that. He doesn't care. He loves the thought of being the biggest pot head in school, unless something drastic happens he'll keep doing this ****.
Sounds like a confrontation is in order.
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