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Old 01-23-2010, 02:22 PM
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I promise, weed would be cheaper than the scotch they are drinking
ugh...were switching to macallan 12 to save money.

and I never ever said anything about first hand knowledge of vapo vs other methods...i said I've heard. ...that's like saying a friend of a friend of a friend told me.
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ugh...were switching to macallan 12 to save money.

and I never ever said anything about first hand knowledge of vapo vs other methods...i said I've heard. ...that's like saying a friend of a friend of a friend told me.
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ugh...were switching to macallan 12 to save money.

and I never ever said anything about first hand knowledge of vapo vs other methods...i said I've heard. ...that's like saying a friend of a friend of a friend told me.
No tar, no smoke, seems perfectly plausible for an athlete
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If I take your advice, can I back peddle when your goon squad shows up and claim entrapment ?
You can do no wrong in my book.

If need be I shall hide a body for you. If I can't hide the body (for whatever reason) my "goon squad" will blame the horrible crime on a random Tampa bum. Cops are crooked like that.

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Old 01-24-2010, 04:14 AM
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If need be I shall hide a body for you. If I can't hide the body (for whatever reason) my "goon squad" will blame the horrible crime on a random Tampa bum. Cops are crooked like that.

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It seems the best solution like others have said is to sit down with him and your mom and talk about it. Don't let your mom give him any money and not let him have any friends over. If he wants to smoke pot he is going to anyway. Beating him up or yelling at him is not going to get him to stop. If you do that he will just loose all respect for you and continue anyway. Calling the cops isn't going to help either. Was it you that said you are studying criminal justice? If it was and he gets caught at your house you stand the chance of getting in trouble. A short term solution could be to make a bet. Its called the saltine cracker challenge. Bet him that if he can eat one saltine cracker while he is high that he will stop for one week. Its nearly impossible to do when high. I know its not exactly what you want but it could get the ball rolling.
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Old 01-24-2010, 11:26 AM
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It seems the best solution like others have said is to sit down with him and your mom and talk about it. Don't let your mom give him any money and not let him have any friends over. If he wants to smoke pot he is going to anyway. Beating him up or yelling at him is not going to get him to stop. If you do that he will just loose all respect for you and continue anyway. Calling the cops isn't going to help either. Was it you that said you are studying criminal justice? If it was and he gets caught at your house you stand the chance of getting in trouble. A short term solution could be to make a bet. Its called the saltine cracker challenge. Bet him that if he can eat one saltine cracker while he is high that he will stop for one week. Its nearly impossible to do when high. I know its not exactly what you want but it could get the ball rolling.
I know he'll smoke it anyway, and he already has no respect for anyone. If he didn't he wouldn't be leaching off his family.

I wouldn't get into any trouble, seeing as how I'm not responsible for him, and I'd be calling it in. He won't take any bets, and even if he did and lost, he'd smoke it the next day anyway.

I told mom to just shoot him and bury him in the field, but she didn't like that idea
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I know he'll smoke it anyway, and he already has no respect for anyone. If he didn't he wouldn't be leaching off his family.

I wouldn't get into any trouble, seeing as how I'm not responsible for him, and I'd be calling it in. He won't take any bets, and even if he did and lost, he'd smoke it the next day anyway.

I told mom to just shoot him and bury him in the field, but she didn't like that idea
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Old 01-24-2010, 12:18 PM
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It's really none of your business how he spends money his mom gave him. That's between him and his mom. If you call the cops you will only give him a criminal record which will haunt him forever. Violence against him will make matters worse. He should not be allowed to smoke in your mom's house, but again, that is between him and his mom. Other than talking to him like an adult you should butt out big bro. He's only 17 -- lighten up.
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It's really none of your business how he spends money his mom gave him. That's between him and his mom. If you call the cops you will only give him a criminal record which will haunt him forever. Violence against him will make matters worse. He should not be allowed to smoke in your mom's house, but again, that is between him and his mom. Other than talking to him like an adult you should butt out big bro. He's only 17 -- lighten up.
He is still a minor he can clear his record when he is older and does alll the NA classes and other things they make you do its a pain in the ass but it might wake him up. I had an ex who was like this and even jail time didnt change him, some times there isnt to much you can do if some one loves weed they love it. Also it depends on what his state sees appropriate as punishment for posession california is not that bad as long as it under an ounce. I think thats so fkd up hes spending your mothers money especially since you said money is tight at the moment but then again an addict doesnt care as long as they are are happy. Hope you figuer out what to do with him. Perhaps cut his supply off fing out his dealer and stop him before he gets the product to your bro any way good luck man!
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Old 01-24-2010, 02:33 PM
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It's really none of your business how he spends money his mom gave him. That's between him and his mom. If you call the cops you will only give him a criminal record which will haunt him forever. Violence against him will make matters worse. He should not be allowed to smoke in your mom's house, but again, that is between him and his mom. Other than talking to him like an adult you should butt out big bro. He's only 17 -- lighten up.
It became my business when my mom's money was actually MY money. I imagine you'd be pissed if someone was taking advantage of you? Perhaps you're above that and forgive immediately after being slapped in the face? I, however, am human, and I want it to stop.
Yes he's 17, but this is nothing really new for our family. We've been through a lot of sh*t where my other brothers/sisters stepped up and made it work, well before the age of 17, nearing 18. He's never done that before, and it's now his turn to step up to the plate and contribute. In this case, his best contribution is to stop wasting money when it can be used to feed, provide clothes, pay heating/water bills, insurance, etc...
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It became my business when my mom's money was actually MY money. I imagine you'd be pissed if someone was taking advantage of you? Perhaps you're above that and forgive immediately after being slapped in the face? I, however, am human, and I want it to stop.
Yes he's 17, but this is nothing really new for our family. We've been through a lot of sh*t where my other brothers/sisters stepped up and made it work, well before the age of 17, nearing 18. He's never done that before, and it's now his turn to step up to the plate and contribute. In this case, his best contribution is to stop wasting money when it can be used to feed, provide clothes, pay heating/water bills, insurance, etc...
My point was that there are worse things than smoking weed. I speak from experience. I don't condone its use and I've had no desire to smoke it in decades. People who do drugs, legal or illegal, including alcohol, are usually looking for ways to escape whatever pain they feel. It's self medication. Do you ever spend money on alcohol? Don't kill him over it.

I'm sure that you have rationally explained to him what is expected of him, i.e., contributing to the family. Good luck.

BTW, I've experienced being "taken advantage of" and being "slapped in the face" plenty. My wicked ex did her best after I decided to divorce her to destroy me in every way imaginable (physically, mentally, financially, career, etc.). I will never be able to recover from some of the things she did to me.
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Your a moron.

Making it seem like the kid is doing something insanely bad.

FFS... let the kid live his life... he will learn from his mistakes.. i SURE did....

Be a good brother and warm him... he wont listen... but atleast u wont feel guilty.

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Your a moron.

Making it seem like the kid is doing something insanely bad.

FFS... let the kid live his life... he will learn from his mistakes.. i SURE did....

Be a good brother and warm him... he wont listen... but atleast u wont feel guilty.

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Old 01-24-2010, 07:32 PM
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Your a moron.

Making it seem like the kid is doing something insanely bad.

FFS... let the kid live his life... he will learn from his mistakes.. i SURE did....

Be a good brother and warm him... he wont listen... but atleast u wont feel guilty.

thats life bro.
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My mom is gone for the night and I'm back at home for the week, and sure enough, I smell pot coming up through the heating vents. Background: my little brother is 17, a complete waste of life, and is using my mom's money to buy pot. My mom has no spine and wont do anything about it. Luckily I have a spine, and it's fvcking pissing me off.

My question for you: What is my next step?

1. Baseball bat, break the stupid fvcks knees?
2. Use my experience in BJJ and Muay Thai to set an example?
3. Call the cops?
4. Beat the living sh*t out of every little *** in the basement, using whatever I find on my way down there?
5. Take a tire iron and remove their tires, then throw the tires in the field behind my house?
All of the above, only I would move calling the cops to last. That way I would at least enjoy myself as I tear apart his pot infested world before the cops show up.
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Your a moron.

Making it seem like the kid is doing something insanely bad.

FFS... let the kid live his life... he will learn from his mistakes.. i SURE did....

Be a good brother and warm him... he wont listen... but atleast u wont feel guilty.

thats life bro.
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How about if moms doesn't stand up then you force your hand. I'm assuming you're over 18. He's underage living at your moms place, which is perfectly normal.

Tell her that unless she puts her foot down, gets this kid in order or kicks him out that you're not paying her a penny. If she's just going to give it to him then tell her to man up. It's her house not yours, right?

Your brother is her problem. Have an intervention with your mom. Be straight up with her. If you want thigns stopped and you don't want your money to go to his habit then tell her that and don't pay her a cent. If it takes her getting into a tight financial jam then so be it.

I would recommend having the money for her but in your pocket that way when she caves and does what's right you can step in, if you so choose, and pay off the bills or whatever is owed.

The bro gets a lesson, moms gets a lesson and you learn a lesson and if things work you're still there to be able to help your mom out after she quits giving your brother all of the ends that you pay her.
I like this solution. I think this thread is getting caught up in the virtues of pot use. He could have a penchant for pay-per-view porn or porcelain bobble heads. Its the fact that he is carelessly spending money that isn't his, when he is old enough to start contributing, or at least fund his own interests/vices.

Cut him off, don't kick him out but don't give him access to a family card/account or petty cash either. Let him get dragged along the bottom for a while, with some tough love from you and your mother and see if he wakes up and gets a damn job.
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Take all of his weed, etc and flsuh it down the toilet and take all of the money that he has.
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I like this solution. I think this thread is getting caught up in the virtues of pot use. He could have a penchant for pay-per-view porn or porcelain bobble heads. Its the fact that he is carelessly spending money that isn't his, when he is old enough to start contributing, or at least fund his own interests/vices.
Cut him off, don't kick him out but don't give him access to a family card/account or petty cash either. Let him get dragged along the bottom for a while, with some tough love from you and your mother and see if he wakes up and gets a damn job.
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that's what my mom and I discussed. he needs a vehicle to get to/from school, and she can't afford to buy him another car (he wrecked his BTW), and neither of us can drive him everyday, doesn't fit either of our schedules. We're working on getting him there so he isn't reliant on us or our money/vehicles.

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Take all of his weed, etc and flsuh it down the toilet and take all of the money that he has.
I haven't found any, and for some reason my mom is against me searching his room Not that it's stopped me from searching...
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Let him do whatever he wants. Hill realize hes screwed up sooner or later and be completely F'ed by him self.
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So, why are your mom and brother living in a place they can't afford without your assistance? Either he gets a job to pay his share, or move them into a home they can afford to live in. If your mom isn't aware of what your brother's doing, who's going to let her know? it's only going to get worse if she doesn't?
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