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Old 05-17-2010, 10:23 AM
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2 things I do to make flying more tolerable;

1) Ativan is my friend
2) Fly first class. If I'm going to die, I'm going in style, dammit
Medication makes me nervous too. I hate taking pills. Would it be wrong if I flew first class and bought coach tickets for everyone else? Thanks for sharing your feelings on this with me, I appreciate your honesty, most people here just like to pretend that nothing scares them (either that or they simply do not have the same passion for life that I do).
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Medication makes me nervous too. I hate taking pills. Would it be wrong if I flew first class and bought coach tickets for everyone else? Thanks for sharing your feelings on this with me, I appreciate your honesty, most people here just like to pretend that nothing scares them (either that or they simply do not have the same passion for life that I do).
Passion for life? I enjoy every day like it might be my last.

Conquer your fears and you will enjoy life much more.
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Old 05-17-2010, 11:09 AM
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Thanks for sharing your feelings on this with me, I appreciate your honesty, most people here just like to pretend that nothing scares them (either that or they simply do not have the same passion for life that I do).
It's easy for people to dismiss the fears of others when they have no first-hand experience. Anxiety and phobias are very real, and anyone who's actually had an anxiety attack at 35,000 feet would not make light of it. I used to love flying, but all it took was one really bad flight to Cancun through a thunderstorm with turbulence so bad that drinks were flying, people were puking, and praying, anyone not belted in was flung out of their seats to render me fearful. Until that happens to you, you can't imagine the psychological trauma.

I wish I could just hop on a plane and go without a second thought, but here I am trying to plan a vacation, and I'm stressing about the aircraft, the duration of the flight, the seating... nobody wants to be this way.

If you're interested (and at the risk of a shameless plug), I run a fear of flying support site with lots of good information. A friend of mine is a Captain with Southwest Airlines (Captain Ray), and helps answer a lot of questions. I've found the more you understand about the mechanics of the aircraft the more comfortable it makes you... because as you know, all the 'safety statistics' go out the window the minute anxiety kicks in.
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It's easy for people to dismiss the fears of others when they have no first-hand experience. Anxiety and phobias are very real, and anyone who's actually had an anxiety attack at 35,000 feet would not make light of it. I used to love flying, but all it took was one really bad flight to Cancun through a thunderstorm with turbulence so bad that drinks were flying, people were puking, and praying, anyone not belted in was flung out of their seats to render me fearful. Until that happens to you, you can't imagine the psychological trauma.

I wish I could just hop on a plane and go without a second thought, but here I am trying to plan a vacation, and I'm stressing about the aircraft, the duration of the flight, the seating... nobody wants to be this way.

If you're interested (and at the risk of a shameless plug), I run a fear of flying support site with lots of good information. A friend of mine is a Captain with Southwest Airlines (Captain Ray), and helps answer a lot of questions. I've found the more you understand about the mechanics of the aircraft the more comfortable it makes you... because as you know, all the 'safety statistics' go out the window the minute anxiety kicks in.
Wow, thanks -Chelle-! I completely understand your anxiety and I'm so impressed that you're doing something about it, unlike me who all I do is constantly debate with people whether or not flying is safe. Every time a plane crashes I'm like, "see I'm not crazy these things do crash a lot" but no one sees it that way except for me.
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Passion for life? I enjoy every day like it might be my last.

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Anxiety and phobias are very real, and anyone who's actually had an anxiety attack at 35,000 feet would not make light of it.
Can you say Xanax?
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who all I do is constantly debate with people whether or not flying is safe.
Well, the truth is flying is safe. Accidents of any kind can and do happen every day, but you are statistically far safer in an airplane than you are on a highway. But I understand those are rational thoughts, and anxiety is never rational. Just arm yourself with as much knowledge as you possibly can, and learn some coping techniques (if you're opposed to taking drugs, which many therapists will tell you is a band-aid cure). It's tough, but it can be done.

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Can you say Xanax?
As I mentioned, I do take Ativan to fly (a form of Xanax). It takes the edge off, and allows me to sleep. There's something to be said for falling asleep in one airport and waking up in another, lol. I'd like to one day be able fly without having to be sedated.. but I'm not there yet.
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Well, the truth is flying is safe. Accidents of any kind can and do happen every day, but you are statistically far safer in an airplane than you are on a highway. But I understand those are rational thoughts, and anxiety is never rational. Just arm yourself with as much knowledge as you possibly can, and learn some coping techniques (if you're opposed to taking drugs, which many therapists will tell you is a band-aid cure). It's tough, but it can be done.


As I mentioned, I do take Ativan to fly (a form of Xanax). It takes the edge off, and allows me to sleep. There's something to be said for falling asleep in one airport and waking up in another, lol. I'd like to one day be able fly without having to be sedated.. but I'm not there yet.
I always take Ativan when I fly but it only "spaces" me out while I'm on the plane (I'm too nervous to fall asleep). Problem with Ativan is that after I land, the remainder of my day is a blur..

Also, remember that the most dangerous times during a flight are at the very beginning and the end. Very very unusual for there to be a problem while you are at cruising altitude. So, if you are going to be nervous, save it for those times!
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I always take Ativan when I fly but it only "spaces" me out while I'm on the plane (I'm too nervous to fall asleep). Problem with Ativan is that after I land, the remainder of my day is a blur..
I find the difference between 0.5mg and 1.0mg of Ativan is the ability to sleep. I'm still cognizant, can get up, use the washroom, walk off the plane.. but if I'm just sitting in my seat I can zonk right out. I'm the same though, the whole rest of the day is a blur. When planning vacations, I try to pick flight times that arrive late in the day or even early evening for that reason.. just get there and sleep it off, start your vacation the next day.

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Also, remember that the most dangerous times during a flight are at the very beginning and the end. Very very unusual for there to be a problem while you are at cruising altitude. So, if you are going to be nervous, save it for those times!
Speaking of fears being irrational, I know this, but it's only ever at cruise that I start to hyperventilate, lol. Logically, I know planes don't just fall out of the sky, but take-offs don't bother me much, and I love landings because I know I'm going to be on the ground in a matter of minutes, lol. I think it's because my phobia stems from trauma at cruise, not on take-off or landing. Weird stuff.
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Well, the truth is flying is safe. Accidents of any kind can and do happen every day, but you are statistically far safer in an airplane than you are on a highway. But I understand those are rational thoughts, and anxiety is never rational. Just arm yourself with as much knowledge as you possibly can, and learn some coping techniques (if you're opposed to taking drugs, which many therapists will tell you is a band-aid cure). It's tough, but it can be done.

The thing for me is that driving I always feel like there's a chance. If I pay attention, don't speed, don't drive drunk or recklessly, I think I always have a chance to control my fate. Sure there are the times when you don't see it coming and even the best drivers in the world couldn't change anything but in those instances it would happen fast and come out of nowhere. You would either be killed instantly or if not at least you would always have the hope that help was on the way. Flying is a different story, many accidents that resulted in fatalities had quite a few minutes while the occupants knew they were going to die, either plummeting to the ground or getting sucked out of the plane, etc. you get the point. That aspect of it, not being able to do a damn thing about it and possibly going through that with loved ones by my side is what makes it terrifying. I can rationalize this whole thing with statistics but somehow I always worry about that worst case scenario happening to me. After all it has to happen to someone.
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The thing for me is that driving I always feel like there's a chance. If I pay attention, don't speed, don't drive drunk or recklessly, I think I always have a chance to control my fate. Sure there are the times when you don't see it coming and even the best drivers in the world couldn't change anything but in those instances it would happen fast and come out of nowhere. You would either be killed instantly or if not at least you would always have the hope that help was on the way. Flying is a different story, many accidents that resulted in fatalities had quite a few minutes while the occupants knew they were going to die, either plummeting to the ground or getting sucked out of the plane, etc. you get the point. That aspect of it, not being able to do a damn thing about it and possibly going through that with loved ones by my side is what makes it terrifying. I can rationalize this whole thing with statistics but somehow I always worry about that worst case scenario happening to me. After all it has to happen to someone.
I know, I've had all the same thoughts. Statistically though, they say you would have to fly every day for 1,700 years in order to be involved in a fatal plane crash. You have a better chance of winning a lottery...
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And again, and again, and again........

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I don't worry about it. Life's too short on its own to worry about low probability deaths.
No doubt all of these people felt exactly the same way:

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no doubt all of these people felt exactly the same way:

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People are dying all around you by the minute. Better commit suicide quick before it happens to you!
Perhaps they should print that on every plane ticket and then I would have nothing to complain about?

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