Had a very similar problem. Very soon you may get the trans fail safe error. I changed the transmission fluid and installed a new filter which cured the problem
I experienced this problem with my 2000 4.4i. It ended up being the transmission valve body.I'm having a problem whit transmission on a 2004 x5 bmw 4.4 wen is decelerating (down shifting) and the car is not in a complete stop then accelerate again some times kicks hard like is was hit on the back of the car. Some one may know what is it? All ready took it to dealer (bay side bmw in great neck ny) they said it was the rmdf basic control unit dme but the transmission is exactly the same after they repair it.
It's amazing the reliance BMW technicians have on the computer to diagnose a problem. There are plenty of things that can go wrong with these vehicles which are not monitored by the computers.Mine does exactly the same thing, I complained to the dealer and they kept doing software updates and told me that sense no code was showing there was nothing else they could do about it. That was at approximately 60,000 miles it now has 120,000 and still does the same thing. I did call call BMW corporate... they were morons.
They're either retire or dead................ What happened to old school mechanics?