I find so many of these "dealers are douchebags" threads come down to the vehicle owner having unrealistic expectations (read: being a jerk). I'm not say you're being a jerk here, but what you write and how you write it certainly comes across as such....
I find being respectful, nice and courteous goes a long way when dealing with any business, particularly the service department of an automotive manufacturer dealership.
The dealership IS correct in that the motor itself is not part of the recall. Is your correspondence with them verbal or written ? If written, can you post the conversation ? If verbal, have you escalated to the service department manager ? (Keeping in mind, if you're being a jerk, escalating isn't going to get you anywhere)
No, should be more clear.