thanks, this is what i was looking for.
A few comments if i may though:
The brown wires coming from the aftermarket harness(connected to the oem harness) doesnt seem to be grounds, they seem to be connectors for the steering wheel buttons. the brow nr grounds in the oem harness, the brown oens in the aftermarket harness are not used. unless i get that module that lets me connect the steering wheel buttons and it will run the chimes too.
They are unused(not connected) because there is nothing to connect them to on the alpine harness.
i have the black wire from the alpine harness directed to the black wire on the aftermarket harness(which runs into the oem harness accordingly). this is the ground, well it is on every normal car. and aftermarket harneses are universal and made for this bmw so i cant see the wire colors mismatching in the harness.
I did not take any shortcuts(if u know of any i did then please tell me, so i can correct them). i bought the am/fm adapter, i bought the aftermarket harness, i bought the faceplate and dash kit.
I took the time and researched the head unit and its possible AMP and searched the car for it and it does not have one that i can find. ive spent the money and did everything correctly and my time to make sure its all tucked properly and heat shrink wrapped and all connectors done etc. ive been doing car audio for a while, its just the slight problem im having is i never worked on a bmw before and it just didnt make sense to me why the oem harness had no ignition lead connected to the pin for the aftermarket harness lead, thus i figured the best option would be to wire both ignition and constant to a constant power lead and the constant supply both wires with constant power, i mean that sounded reasonable right? but i took your advice and i ran a direct power lead for the missing link(ignition) and rewired the constant to be the constant standalone like it should.
What I had done was since there was no connection on the pin of the oem harness for the aftermarkets ignition lead (red wire[from the aftermarket harness]) i decided to twist the constant(yellow wire[from the alpine harnes{from the deck}]) together with the ignition lead(from the same alpine harness together) then just connected them both to the yellow wire (constant[to the aftermarket harness]) which in return goes direct to the oem harness.
Now unless the connections dont match up on the aftermarket harness and the oem harness (which would be really hard to understand why that would be) then i dont see a problem with the connections.
But after reading your comment and understanding that the car "Sleeps" maybe its sleeping both the ignition wire(red lead) and constant wire(constant supply[yellow lead]) thus draining the supply after a few hours which is why it would only work short term(the memory).
What i did now was
i ran a power wire from the alpines ignition lead(red) direct to the battery now since there was no ignition lead(red) connected on the oem harness slot{too the aftermarket pin slot}.
i also just connected the constant(yellow lead from aftermarket harness) to the constant (yellow lead on the alpine harness). Thus rendering both leads to have their own correct/direct wiring now.
all i can do now is wait till tomorrow morning and hope it saves now. if not then i as a car audio guy for years am lost.. cause none of this will make any sense at all if this doesn't work.
Brown wires are ground, throughout the harness. Unused grounds may or may not be a problem, depending on what they were connected to in the OEM head unit. You may have open-loop circuits...don't know what they might be so can't say if will matter.
Not running a proper constant-power lead sounds very much like the cause of your problem. The yellow "battery" lead you chose in the OEM harness is probably losing power when the car goes to sleep. If you spliced the constant-power lead into the Alpine head unit to a supply that is not always hot, the capacitors in the settings memory will drain out in a few hours after the power cuts off and everything will reset.
Floyd was trying to help you. BMWs are notoriously sensitive to aftermarket electronics, especially replacing the stereo head unit, because the factory systems are so fiendishly interconnected. You say you thoroughly researched the job but you also clearly took shortcuts. For the sake of your car, your wallet and your sanity, you might want to revisit those decisions.
Sooner or later, BMWs reward inexpert service and modifications with failure...often expensive failure. Whenever you touch the car, spend the time and money to do it right. It's cheaper in the long run.