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I'm sorry to hear that Karl. My best wishes for a positive outcome for your dad.
 

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Sorry to hear that karl.

Was it caught early?
We think so. He feels totally fine and has no symptoms. His PSA (prostate-specific antigen - a protein which only the prostate produces) was just above the normal level, which suggests that it is in early stages, we hope.

Sorry to hear that man, welcome to the not so fun party. They have any treatment plans yet?
Not yet. He meets with his urologist on the 16th, and will at that time learn what his Gleason score is (a metric used for determining the aggressiveness of the cancer cells). From there, they will discuss treatment options, which I think will be radiation therapy or surgical removal of the prostate.

I'm trying to stay positive despite the bad news, though. Statistically, the 5 year survival rate is 100%, 10 year survival rate is 98%, and 15 year survival rate is 95%. Prostate cancer is also typically a very slow growing cancer. But at this point, we just need to figure out what we have on our hands (i.e., whether it has spread to other areas or is confined to only the prostate).

I'm sorry to hear that Karl. My best wishes for a positive outcome for your dad.
Thanks, Ed. How are things going for you? Where are you staying now?
 

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Prostate removal??? Can we do that? But ya I'm sure he'll be fine. I'm with my mom now, unfortunately her bone cancer did spread a little bit between December 1st and now, but we are still hopeful about keeping it at bay, and there are many interesting cancer treatments out there outside of chemo and radiation (i.e. nuking of the body). So we may look into alternatives as well.
 

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Yeah, prostate removal is actually not that bad, all things considered. It's a walnut size organ, which as I understand, serves no legitimate function after a certain age. Plenty of people have it removed, some preventively. The primary risk is incontinence, but if the procedure is performed well, that risk can supposedly be minimized.

Despite your mom's condition, how is she actually feeling? I'm sure she really appreciates you being there.
 

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Yeah, prostate removal is actually not that bad, all things considered. It's a walnut size organ, which as I understand, serves no legitimate function after a certain age. Plenty of people have it removed, some preventively. The primary risk is incontinence, but if the procedure is performed well, that risk can supposedly be minimized.

Despite your mom's condition, how is she actually feeling? I'm sure she really appreciates you being there.
Ya she does for sure, being on the phone with her every day just wasn't even coming close to cutting it, and my perspective on the whole situation was just wrong being so far removed. She was feeling pretty terrible when she started the chemo pills, which were only supposed to slow down the cancer, not get rid of it, and they were super expensive as well so she decided to quit them. We are trying alternate methods instead, and she'll be able to feel like a healthy human being in the mean time. We're trying to focus on putting some weight back on her now.

I will also be helping her later this summer to move, she is going to move in with my sister in Ontario, everyone is happy about that, no issues. The issue is what do we do with this house. Real estate here is pretty low, and this is just a small 2 bedroom 1 bath, 1 story, no basement, 1 car garage house. My mom is leaning towards selling the house, but ultimately she will, and the rest of the family will, let me decide what is best. I'm very attached to this house, it has been in the family since the 50's. My grandparents literally built this house over a number of years, my mom included when she was just a little girl, I cannot stress that enough, it isn't like today when someone says they "built their house", but really just paid a bunch of people to do everything for them, no, my grandparents did everything, foundation, driveway, electrical, plumbing, you name it, my grandfather was an engineer so he was pretty capable. As a result this house is incredibly well built, everything is perfect and level. My mom has since done a complete update on the kitchen and appliances, it has a nice back yard, 2 vegetable garden plots, a shed, gazebo, stand alone antenna tower, new roof, oh and last year I put down bamboo flooring throughout the house.

Long story short, the house is in good shape, and will definitely be ready to sell once all of the STUFF is cleaned out of it. There is no mortgage obviously, and my mom doesn't need the money from selling the house. She does not want to worry about it though, so she won't just leave it empty. I have 0 reason to live in Lincoln, Nebraska other than this house, my dad is in NC, and his whole side of the family, and I really like living where I am living minus the plethora of conservatards, but Nebraska isn't any different as far as that is concerned. I have been thinking of continuing to live in NC and renting the house out to people, but I don't personally know anyone who would be interested so I would be taking a big gamble on a stranger(s) living here and not trashing the place. I could check in every now and then, but ideally only once a year.

I want to keep the house because it is a bit of a security blanket for me, if I lose my job, I will have a place to live, that sort of thing. They just get too much damn snow here, and I would be far away from everyone. So I really can't decide what to do right now, it is a tough decision. In this market it would probably only fetch 120k, which I think is peanuts for this house... If I knew somebody, or knew someone who knows someone can vouch for them being a clean, responsible, and sane adult, I would have not problem giving them a hell of a deal when it comes to rent money, but if that isn't the case, then I don't want a low rent rate to attract the wrong kinds of people.
 

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Glad to hear that your mom is able to move in with her sister. That is a very good arrangement.

As far as the house is concerned, I somewhat understand where you're coming from. My partner's grandmother had to face a similar situation with her grandmother's house in North Dakota a few years ago. Super nice old farm house, very well built, and in the family since the '50s. My partner spent huge portions of all of her childhood summers there. Eventually, her grandmother had to move in with her son in Michigan, which left the house in ND empty. Was a really tough situation because nobody wanted to sell it for all sorts of reasons. It wasn't worth very much, but nobody had any reason to live in North Dakota. They did sell it eventually, which was difficult for them.

One possible option you may be able to think about is renting it remotely. I have some friends with rental properties who hire private management companies to take care of the renting arrangement. Basically, the company handles everything from finding tenants, collecting rent, handling maintenance, and so on. They just dock a small amount of money from whatever you ask for rent. Based on what I've heard from my friends, it's totally worth it. You get to keep the property, but have none of the headaches typically associated with being a landlord.
 

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One possible option you may be able to think about is renting it remotely. I have some friends with rental properties who hire private management companies to take care of the renting arrangement. Basically, the company handles everything from finding tenants, collecting rent, handling maintenance, and so on. They just dock a small amount of money from whatever you ask for rent. Based on what I've heard from my friends, it's totally worth it. You get to keep the property, but have none of the headaches typically associated with being a landlord.
This is a good arrangement even if you're not an absentee landlord. It's easier for a professional management company to run credit checks, and if for some reason the renter has to go, then they typically bear the burden and costs of eviction. They typically either have contracts with local companies or have their own staff to handle the maintenance.

Yeah, prostate removal is actually not that bad, all things considered. It's a walnut size organ, which as I understand, serves no legitimate function after a certain age. Plenty of people have it removed, some preventively. The primary risk is incontinence, but if the procedure is performed well, that risk can supposedly be minimized.
One treatment involves hormone therapy to shrink the prostate first before the removal surgery and that approach seems to have the least side effects.

Ya she does for sure, being on the phone with her every day just wasn't even coming close to cutting it, and my perspective on the whole situation was just wrong being so far removed. She was feeling pretty terrible when she started the chemo pills, which were only supposed to slow down the cancer, not get rid of it, and they were super expensive as well so she decided to quit them. We are trying alternate methods instead, and she'll be able to feel like a healthy human being in the mean time. We're trying to focus on putting some weight back on her now.
Don't be afraid to consult other oncologists. There are probably a half dozen possible approaches for each type of cancer.

Hope it all comes out for the best for both of you Karl and Andrew.........
 

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Glad to hear that your mom is able to move in with her sister. That is a very good arrangement.

As far as the house is concerned, I somewhat understand where you're coming from. My partner's grandmother had to face a similar situation with her grandmother's house in North Dakota a few years ago. Super nice old farm house, very well built, and in the family since the '50s. My partner spent huge portions of all of her childhood summers there. Eventually, her grandmother had to move in with her son in Michigan, which left the house in ND empty. Was a really tough situation because nobody wanted to sell it for all sorts of reasons. It wasn't worth very much, but nobody had any reason to live in North Dakota. They did sell it eventually, which was difficult for them.

One possible option you may be able to think about is renting it remotely. I have some friends with rental properties who hire private management companies to take care of the renting arrangement. Basically, the company handles everything from finding tenants, collecting rent, handling maintenance, and so on. They just dock a small amount of money from whatever you ask for rent. Based on what I've heard from my friends, it's totally worth it. You get to keep the property, but have none of the headaches typically associated with being a landlord.
I have been thinking of that as well, and I honestly haven't looked into it much yet. I am curious about what kind of percentage they take out, and if it will be a contract basis type of thing, so if say I do need to move back here, am I going to have to wait a year for a contract to finish up? It also makes me nervous putting something like finding tenants in another person's hands. Then there is stuff like mowing the lawn, is that something I can require tenants to do or would it be better to just pay a monthly fee to have someone come mow the lawn?
 

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+1 to karl said. a lot of realty companies are doing rentals and have the resources for vetting potential tenants.

karl and andrew, my thoughts and prayers for your respective families and hopes for positive outcomes.

as for ed,,...suck it up, pal....;)
hey, he's canadian, he loves everybody.....besides, we're practically brothers:angel:



seriously, ed, from the media coverage, it sounds as if canada is just one crispy wasteland now....:yikes: but a lot of people i have heard talk about it have no clue where ft mc is, much less how large of an area alberta encompasses. not saying it's a tiny fire, by any means, but i heard a knucklehead make a comment on "well what *i'd* do is..." and proceed to blather on about how 'murica is a lot better at this sort of thing, yadda yadda yadda....:rolleyes:

stoopit yanks....:tsk:


that being said, i have just rolled out of the first full month of 60+ hours a week and part way through this one with no signs of slowing down. rather, they appear to be increasing and it looks as though i will be adding a few sundays to my work week....:eek:


the paychecks look great until i realize what tax bracket i get shoved into :eek::cry::mad:

let's just say the last paycheck taxes were more than what an "average" wal mart employee earns.


















































in a month :yikes::yikes::yikes:


yeah. seriously.


but it's only for a few months out of the year and then i go back to "normal human" wages. still, bugs have been very good for me and i need to make hay while the sun is shining. i have to put my house purchase plans on hold since i need to put some extensive money into the house i currently reside in, but that will be addressed without going into debt shortly and then i will be able to concentrate on saving for the next house with the assurance of the soon to be rental being in tip top shape to minimize the money pit factor.


always lots to do, but i need a garage to be able to fix the stuff i need to. as it is currently, i have no time to go over to the bmw farm to finish the ti engine swap, put the top on the z, or throw piper back together again. and since i need to repair the house, the money i do have will be going to that instead of possibly paying someone to finish any of the project cars.

besides, we all know what we feel about other people working on our cars, right?? ;)


anyway, just wanted to share as i have been absent a lot lately and touch base with y'all to see what has been going on.




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+1 to karl said. a lot of realty companies are doing rentals and have the resources for vetting potential tenants.

karl and andrew, my thoughts and prayers for your respective families and hopes for positive outcomes.

as for ed,,...suck it up, pal....;)
hey, he's canadian, he loves everybody.....besides, we're practically brothers:angel:



seriously, ed, from the media coverage, it sounds as if canada is just one crispy wasteland now....:yikes: but a lot of people i have heard talk about it have no clue where ft mc is, much less how large of an area alberta encompasses. not saying it's a tiny fire, by any means, but i heard a knucklehead make a comment on "well what *i'd* do is..." and proceed to blather on about how 'murica is a lot better at this sort of thing, yadda yadda yadda....:rolleyes:

stoopit yanks....:tsk:


that being said, i have just rolled out of the first full month of 60+ hours a week and part way through this one with no signs of slowing down. rather, they appear to be increasing and it looks as though i will be adding a few sundays to my work week....:eek:


the paychecks look great until i realize what tax bracket i get shoved into :eek::cry::mad:

let's just say the last paycheck taxes were more than what an "average" wal mart employee earns.


















































in a month :yikes::yikes::yikes:


yeah. seriously.


but it's only for a few months out of the year and then i go back to "normal human" wages. still, bugs have been very good for me and i need to make hay while the sun is shining. i have to put my house purchase plans on hold since i need to put some extensive money into the house i currently reside in, but that will be addressed without going into debt shortly and then i will be able to concentrate on saving for the next house with the assurance of the soon to be rental being in tip top shape to minimize the money pit factor.


always lots to do, but i need a garage to be able to fix the stuff i need to. as it is currently, i have no time to go over to the bmw farm to finish the ti engine swap, put the top on the z, or throw piper back together again. and since i need to repair the house, the money i do have will be going to that instead of possibly paying someone to finish any of the project cars.

besides, we all know what we feel about other people working on our cars, right?? ;)


anyway, just wanted to share as i have been absent a lot lately and touch base with y'all to see what has been going on.




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Thank you for your kind wishes! Good luck with all your **** you got going on, I hear you on taxes, because I'm self employed I pay substantially more than most do. I don't make a lot of money but my income taxes were 13%, lol I would be paying the same thing in Canada and also getting healthcare out of it, not to mention I would still get payed in US$, oh well...
 

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Yeesh, I guess this is the week for finding out relatives have cancer. My brother, who was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma in 2007, underwent almost a year of treatment, and has been in remission since 2008 just found out he has Acute Lymphocytic Leukemia. One of the hazards of the treatment for MM is that it often opens the door for other types of cancer later on. At least he's going to be getting treatment here instead of having to travel hundreds of miles for care by specialists. When he was diagnosed with MM he was stage three already. At the time it was a 2 year death sentence. The Myeloma Institute in Little Rock, AR took him in on a clinical trial, and he's been free of that disease for 8 years. I pray he will have similar results with his treatment for Leukemia.
Prayers for Karl's and Andrew's family members.
 

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Yeesh, I guess this is the week for finding out relatives have cancer. My brother, who was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma in 2007, underwent almost a year of treatment, and has been in remission since 2008 just found out he has Acute Lymphocytic Leukemia. One of the hazards of the treatment for MM is that it often opens the door for other types of cancer later on. At least he's going to be getting treatment here instead of having to travel hundreds of miles for care by specialists. When he was diagnosed with MM he was stage three already. At the time it was a 2 year death sentence. The Myeloma Institute in Little Rock, AR took him in on a clinical trial, and he's been free of that disease for 8 years. I pray he will have similar results with his treatment for Leukemia.
Prayers for Karl's and Andrew's family members.
Man that is rough news, so sorry to hear about your brother. Cancer really is the most frustrating disease, and its about time we come up with something better than just nuking people's body's. There are some really clever and promising treatments out there, such as immunotherapy, and rigvir, but nothing approved by the FDA yet unfortunately. This cycle of profiting off of people's ailments needs to stop. Prayers for all of our families.
 

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So get this guys... I'm still here in Lincoln, NE with my mom. Yesterday was looking particularly "hazy" we assumed there was a fire somewhere in town. Any guesses where this haziness came from?
 

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if those that are old enough remember mt st helens erupting, you will probably recall that the ash was also blowing everywhere. not uncommon or unexpected.

iirc, i believe one report stated the fire is about the size of new york city. large indeed....:eek:



off to go take care of more stuff around the house. so much to do so much to do......




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Friday night my Miata developed a rod knock. I was have some fun in a parking lot and I did not realize I was a quart low on oil :doh:. As I was about to leave the parking lot I heard a new sound coming from my engine, so I stopped to check it out. I found I was low on oil so I drove a few hundred yards to a gas station and bought a quart of oil. That made the car sound better but the noise was still there. I drove it home and recorded the sound it the morning.

https://youtu.be/vrcS7PyeWk0

On I posted the video clip to Miata.net and prayed they would tell me it was something in the top end. I could fix that easily, but nope it was rod knock :(. A really helpful dude on that forum had a 1.6L 90 engine for $300 and he could install it for $450. I called him to work out the details and he said that it would be a few weeks before he could get to it because he was swapping a 99 miata engine that was overheated. The Miata is currently my only running car and borrowing cars for a month would be tough. I thought about doing the swap myself but I have my little brother Boo's M3 to finish and school/work. I am good at working on cars, I am just not fast and I really wanted the Miata back up and running. Later that day the dude called back and it turns out his friend with a shop could do the swap this week for the same price :banana:. I agreed and we arranged for me to drop off the Miata at his shop in CT Sunday.

The knock did not sound to bad, so I thought I could make it to CT before the engine got any new holes in it. Boo was going to meet me at the shop and so I could leave the Miata there and go home with him. About half way to the shop the oil pressure dropped to 15 PSI and the engine sounded terrible. I knew at that point the engine was just about to blow so I got off at the nearest exit and costed in to a gas station. I have AAA plus and I was within 100 miles of the shop so a tow is free. I called AAA and about 2 hours later the Miata was on the back of the tow truck heading to the shop. Boo was not following me so he got to the shop on time and had two hours to kill while he waited for me. He ended exploring the random town the shop was in on foot. He seemed to have a fun time and he is now convinced he can't go on a road trip with me with out it turning in to an adventure :rofl:. When I got to the shop I had a look around and it was filled with Miatas. The shop owner is clearly a Miata enthusiast, so my Miata is in good hands. I pay the shop owner and I should have my Miata back sometime around Thursday. Over all I would say things turned out pretty well for blowing a engine :).
 

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Friday night my Miata developed a rod knock. I was have some fun in a parking lot and I did not realize I was a quart low on oil :doh:. As I was about to leave the parking lot I heard a new sound coming from my engine, so I stopped to check it out. I found I was low on oil so I drove a few hundred yards to a gas station and bought a quart of oil. That made the car sound better but the noise was still there. I drove it home and recorded the sound it the morning.

https://youtu.be/vrcS7PyeWk0

On I posted the video clip to Miata.net and prayed they would tell me it was something in the top end. I could fix that easily, but nope it was rod knock :(. A really helpful dude on that forum had a 1.6L 90 engine for $300 and he could install it for $450. I called him to work out the details and he said that it would be a few weeks before he could get to it because he was swapping a 99 miata engine that was overheated. The Miata is currently my only running car and borrowing cars for a month would be tough. I thought about doing the swap myself but I have my little brother Boo's M3 to finish and school/work. I am good at working on cars, I am just not fast and I really wanted the Miata back up and running. Later that day the dude called back and it turns out his friend with a shop could do the swap this week for the same price :banana:. I agreed and we arranged for me to drop off the Miata at his shop in CT Sunday.

The knock did not sound to bad, so I thought I could make it to CT before the engine got any new holes in it. Boo was going to meet me at the shop and so I could leave the Miata there and go home with him. About half way to the shop the oil pressure dropped to 15 PSI and the engine sounded terrible. I knew at that point the engine was just about to blow so I got off at the nearest exit and costed in to a gas station. I have AAA plus and I was within 100 miles of the shop so a tow is free. I called AAA and about 2 hours later the Miata was on the back of the tow truck heading to the shop. Boo was not following me so he got to the shop on time and had two hours to kill while he waited for me. He ended exploring the random town the shop was in on foot. He seemed to have a fun time and he is now convinced he can't go on a road trip with me with out it turning in to an adventure :rofl:. When I got to the shop I had a look around and it was filled with Miatas. The shop owner is clearly a Miata enthusiast, so my Miata is in good hands. I pay the shop owner and I should have my Miata back sometime around Thursday. Over all I would say things turned out pretty well for blowing a engine :).
Glad it worked out in the end! The Miata engines are pretty hardy, but the one thing they don't tolerate is being anything but full to the brim on oil. At the PDX at Daytona a month ago a guy had the same thing happen. Went out for a session sounding OK, came back with a sound like someone pounding a mini sledge in the bottom end. He was a quart and half low on oil. :(
 
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